S.O.S. I live with positivists!

So I agree that girls are bastards and guys are sluts (see sarah). But as for the assertion that we'd all be happy productive humans if relationships weren't messy, I say a big "NA-UH!" We'd be little soma-fied lemmings that screwed (excuse my french, ahem, "procreated with") the first thing that came along. Or say, we were all sane and balanced enough to wait for something good - 'perfection' as wonderwoman would say - to come along. We wouldn't actually go for it because as soma-fied lemmings, we wouldn't play all those titillating, tantalizing sadistic games that we all, regardless of gender, find fascinating and attractive. When it comes to sex, we're animals. Face it. The game is good.

Most relationships are messy because most people are 1) with people that they shouldn't be with or 2) in relationships where there is an inherent imbalance of power or sentiment. So deathly afraid to be alone, the vast majority of people (I know) end up in relationships of convenience, not of love but of mutual fear of living a life of solitude in a world geared towards the marketing of the couple. And of course those are going to be messy. Half the time you're looking at the partner and thinking "how the hell did I end up with you?!?" or as Chris Rock so succintly put it, "you're not her first choice."

I do believe in love, but I would never presume to equate love with relationships (much less assume that sex is any indication of love). Rare is the relationship where true love is present, where you end and the other begins and where giving is nothing less than receiving. But still, I can't say that I'm less...jaded than wonderwoman. I believe in love, but I think people are shit. Not fundamentally so, but they're so blinded by the superficial and unreal that I prefer to write them off immediately.